TLC

Talking to myself


It kills you isn't it?


1. When he stops making surprises and settles for what is easier to get, to have, to accomplish, to do for you. For example, he stops sending you text messages with feelings in it and settles for a phone call (unlimited call promo of networks) because it's just a one or two press away. It rings, he says hi and asks how you are, end of conversation... his obligation is done, next page please. Quicker right? Less effort.


2. What about in giving gifts?
Well he used to think hard about what to get me on special occasions or what to do for me. But now, he picks anything on sale not minding if I could really use it in real life. Worst, he doesn't get me anything or I would have to share half of how much it costs.


3. Does he still care with how you look or what you are thinking?
Let me see, the last time I checked, he's too busy. With so many things happening around him, (in his studies, his job, and in his business), checking out my new hair, or reading my blog or notes or emails or offline messages is like lightyears away from his list.


4. But what about if you are spending time together?
OK i'll tell you about it. Well, nothing happens if I don't do the asking and telling. Going to see movies, eating in a restaurant, going to church, it all happens because I do all the planning and event organizing, he just goes with the flow.


Talking to Mr.


Dear Mr.,


First, I appreciate that unlimited call. But haven't you noticed? Important conversations are done through text messaging (at least in our case), difficult things to say over the phone are easier to formulate through texting, without one trying to interrupt another. Thoughts are sent one by one and both of us could respond to each one of it.
Plus if it is anything sweet and sincere, you can always keep them and read them over and over again.


Second, I will give you a hint, usefulness is important. It is something you should consider in buying a gift. It would really not matter if it's on sale as long as it's not shop-lifted (hehe). And gift-giving rule: Don't give for the sake of giving. Don't treat it as one of those house chores you posted on the fridge that you can put a check on when you're done doing it. Plus plus plus, it doesn't need a special occasion to give a special someone something. And it is very very very unforgetable if it is anything you had worked on yourself, just like that video you did.


Third, I 'm cute but I'm not stupid. Of course I consider the fact that you are juggling too many responsibilities and commitments and I'm proud of you because of that. But if you really like someone, you don't lose track of her. You wanna see how she would look in this hair or that, in this dress color or that, seeing her even in pictures on the internet would always make you feel excited (that's what I think because that's how I am to you). It doesn't take you an hour to open her page you know and drop some messages. Most importantly, it does really matter knowing that you care about what's on my head (not just what's between my legs). It's sexy and very manly if a guy checks out a woman's opinion over prevailing issues, or a woman's translation over a single ordinary everyday experience. It's a feeling of "I matter".


Fourth, simple. Take control. You're the man. I am giving you that power! Of course, I have my own suggestions and all, that is the time we (as a team) weigh things and decide together.